Relationships

There are 5 steps to making relationships work, the Teachers of Humanity tell me.  They are listed below.  However, before we begin I want to say something about the concept of soul mates and expectations.  In the healing work provided through this site, I often see people struggling to be single.  They believe that they are not worthy when they don't have love in their lives, which leads them to accepting poorly formed relationships that make them feel even less worthy... the question is - worthy of what?  I am not always sure what this worthiness is, that is meant to come from relationships. There are kudos involved in being in a relationship, and we seem to have an ingrained teaching that says only those in relationships can be counted. There is something about having a partner that makes us believe we are succeeding in life. Which often leads us to settle for less-than-respectful people in our lives.

This idea of attaining success and worthiness in a relationship is a societal teaching, it is a myth, and not a spiritual teaching.  Sure we can learn a lot and grow a lot through a relationship, but we do this anyway.

On a soul level many people are, in the current moment of time, being asked to heal themselves before entering a relationship.  We are being asked to strip away the negative, ego-based teachings so that we don't create more unhappiness in a relationship, especially those of us who have a healing role here on earth, or who have chosen to act out healing rather than perpetuating fear (there are many of us)!

After all one unhappy person is enough!  When there are two unhappy people together the unhappiness intensifies and gets worse.  In other words, we don't heal unhappiness through a relationship, we heal it by allowing our lives to just be what they are, whist we strive to be more and more for ourselves. Success and worthiness are inner states and not attained through a connection to another person.

Not all of the steps below will be what you expecting, but this is the way the Teachers like to teach!  These steps are direct from Spirit, so be patient with these ideals, take your time with them.  Let them integrate into your psyche, and your wisdom-base before launching in to use to them too!

Welcome Friends!

This healing page is all about YOU!  We want you to remember that relationships are not "healing pods" of life.  They are meant to support and nurture, but they also have a place in forcing you to be independent.  Those who are in a relationship now know the loneliness that a relationship can bring if you expect too much. Those who are not in a relationship know of loneliness too, but a much different type.  That is, loneliness within and loneliness without are different because they are based in different expectations - I have but he is not supporting me... or I don't have, where is she?

So the importance of this message is to say - please stop expecting and start intuiting.  You are not ever in relationship to heal or to heal your partner, you are there to learn and remember who you are.  That is, partners or soul-mates are often around to test you.

1. Support does not come from another person, it is there from everyone when you are open to it.  Therefore do not expect a partner to come along and just be there for you, this does not happen.  If they are in the beginning, it doesn't last long does it?  Not until you begin to support through your own thoughts, can others support you in return.
2. If you want love then love.  If you are hating everything and everyone because they have more than you and they are happier and more successful and... than you are, then how can you expect anyone to love you.  Hate cannot be loved.  It goes against the very nature of hate to be loved.  You see what we are saying here.  If you want love then start to create that by saying - thank you for providing love on this planet.  I want to be in love like those around me, I want to appreciate another just as I see my friends doing. Then you have a space to draw in love (and not before)!
3. If you want peace inside a relationship, then you need to be peace.  If you are angry then you will make your partner angry too. But somehow so many of you think that you are allowed to be angry and aggressive to your partners and families, and then you just expect them to love you in return.  If you are lucky then they will, but how much damage have you done to the respect they hold for you and how long can it go on.  You cannot expect another to love you if you are always angry with them.  You do not have this right.
4. Love is a state of mind and not a spiritual concept.  Surprised?!  Well love is a pure state of mind, yes and it is a wonderful one.  But if you really want a pure relationship you need to go beyond love and into what is known as the 'unknown' where feeling does not even exist, but you simply are. You exist in a state of pure joy and thereby want to share that with people, and a particular person too!  But what is different here is that you do not need anything at all from this person you are with, because in the unknown nothing needs to be known because everything already is known...
5. Please, please, please trust your gut instinct, and your intuitive self, when it comes to relationships and who another person is.  They will always shown themselves to you and you need to trust their love or their anger, for it is true.  If you choose to ignore anothers' anger towards you it will be to your own detriment. You do not create love through acceptance. Love is generated through sharing, caring and allowing anothers' peace to exist.

We thank you for your time today and we hope that you find wisdom and truth in these words. We are here for you to attain your own peace now.  Please take part in the healing on Valentines Day.  Details are provided via our Facebook Page!

Your friends, the Teachers of Humanity